Forgive, forgive, forgive … again?

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Good News ReflectionTuesday of the Third Week of LentMarch 17, 2009
Today's Saint: Patrickhttp://wordbytes.org/saints/DailyPrayers/Patrick.htm
Today's Readings:Daniel 3:25, 34-43Ps 25:4-9Matt 18:21-35http://www.usccb.org/nab/readings/031709.shtmlAudio: http://ccc.usccb.org/cccradio/NABPodcasts/09_03_17.mp3
Forgive, forgive, forgive … again?
How many people have taught you how to forgive seventy times seven times? This method of learning the lesson of today's Gospel passage is not fun. But there's a reason why God allows us to experience those who repeatedly — sometimes seventy times in one day! — give us opportunities to practice forgiveness: They need this gesture of mercy more than others do. And in God's great concern for them, he puts them in OUR paths. (Gee thanks God, but couldn't you have picked someone else?)
Such people are in desperate need of love; they've received less of it than we have, and that's why they behave so badly. In many cases, they have NEVER received real love; their only experience of so-called "love" is actually co-dependency or control or conditions.
In some cases, disease, addiction, or mental illness has robbed them of the ability to receive love when it is, in fact, given to them.
No one can give what they do not have. They can only give us what they do have, and sadly, that's grief — and plenty of it!
We can give them the forgiveness we've received from our loving Father — the "king who settled accounts with his officials" in the parable. We know what love is, because we've opened ourselves to God's generous love, and therefore we have the responsibility of sharing it with those who have less.
They might assume that they know what love is, but they don't know how to recognize real, unconditional, Christ-like love, so we have to persist and forgive and persist and forgive until finally — finally! — our love breaks through the barricades of their hearts.
Then, when they slip back into their old ways, we forgive them again. Our persistence might be the only true connection to Jesus that they have.
However, we cannot succeed alone. Others are also needed, including counselors, doctors, or therapists. Sometimes God tells us that we've done enough and it's time to step away so that he can help them through someone else.
The process is long. We have to ask God to give us a supernatural love for these people. When we want to quit prematurely, we can look at Jesus hanging on the cross for us. He did not give up on us. If we truly want to follow him, we have to become like him. By uniting our sufferings to his cross, we are intimately united to his redemptive power.
Pray for those who are causing you pain; choose to forgive them. It's a choice, not a feeling. And we need to do it now, not when (or if) they repent. Jesus did not delay his walk to Calvary hoping that humankind would repent before he got nailed for our sins. As you follow him in the spirit of forgiveness, remember: After crucifixion there is always resurrection!
Today's step on the Lenten journey: Finish this sentence: The people I choose to forgive again are _________.
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